The first, essential, piece of knowledge for bondage and BDSM is that the road to pleasure has no shortcuts; there is no substitute for time, patience and the intimacy you build on trust. Curious about making your first steps into bondage and BDSM? Whether you are drawn to the high ceremonial drama of kinbaku or interested in exploring your kink with some minimal, rope-around-the-wrists restraint, here are some basics on the pleasure of tying and binding. In the 20th century, rope ties began appearing in the stylised performances of kabuki theatre, which reimagined and modified the techniques of hojojutsu so that actors could recreate them safely and to a more striking visual effect on stage. The practice was gradually adopted by fetish cultures on both sides of the Pacific, sometimes under the name of shibari , the general term for decorative rope tying in Japanese culture, featuring in Shinto spiritual offerings and Sumo wrestling as well as erotic bondage.
Welcome to Shibari , your chance to learn the building blocks of Japanese rope bondage! If you missed it, check out the introduction for history, rope basics and safety. Whether you plan to use them alone or turn them into something else, mastering these two ties is extremely important. A single-column tie is probably the most common shibari tie. First, find the bight center of your rope. Wrap it around the wrist above the joint twice, leaving room for a couple fingers to slip between the rope and the wrist. Cross the bight over the working ends the two ends of rope opposite the bight.
Rope bondage is made up of many different ties; but the first one anyone should learn is the single column tie. By writing this post, I figured out what my three favourite single column ties were, and why. Why columns? Your arms and wrists are columns. Your torso is a column.
If you're feeling a little pervy because you want to tie someone one or be tied up yourself, you are officially about as pervy as Yes, technically BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism , but bondage is right there, the first one. And depending on how far you want to take it, bondage can include any of those elements. Bondage is about heightening your experience with each other.